Bondage Lingerie: Introduction & What to Wear
Whether you’re a newbie to bondage lingerie or you're a total slave to the practice, this article will cover the basics of bondage lingerie and our favorite pieces to play in.
The idea of bondage can be intimidating to people who think they are either too conservative or inexperienced in the bedroom. But curiosity is healthy, and knowledge is power!
We’re going to give you the low-down on what bondage is, how to try it, and where to find sexy bondage lingerie for when you’re feeling frisky.
What is bondage?
Let’s be honest, when you think of bondage, you might think of Fifty Shades of Grey depictions. But there’s so much more to it than that.
Bondage is a part of the BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism) subculture and the practice of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic or somatosensory stimulation (such as pressure, pain, tickling, etc.).
Two common labels you'll hear in BDSM play are "sub" and "dom," which are short for "submissive" and "dominant." Submissive roles are those in bondage restraints, whereas dominant roles do the disciplining.
Bondage has been prevalent in art since the 17th century when women were tied up and depicted as damsels in distress.
Although Fifty Shades of Grey wasn’t an accurate depiction of the BDSM subculture, its mainstream appeal encouraged some women to explore BDSM fantasies for the first time.
How do you introduce bondage into your bedroom?
Communication is key
Bondage in the bedroom involves either you or your partner letting go of control. Therefore, most people set up a safe word when trying out this new venture.
A safe word lets both parties know that, when the word is said, play will stop immediately. This will allow you and your partner to build trust and explore freely.
Keep it simple
We’ll get to this in more detail later, but begin your bondage practice with the essentials.
Bringing lots of new toys and gadgets can be overwhelming and intimidating. Something as simple as a blindfold can be a great starting point.
Don’t let misconceptions stop you
Despite what most people think, bondage can be very romantic. There are a lot of misconceptions about bondage—it doesn’t have to be all whips and chains.
Don’t put pressure on yourself, and just have fun with it.
Do your research
There is a lot of good information out there to help you get started.
Reading blogs like this one and articles will help you guide you through trying bondage.
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Editor's Picks: Bondage Lingerie, Accessories & Sets
Ready to get kinky? Here are some favorite bondage lingerie picks to start or continue your bondage adventures.
1. Lace Yourself Bondage Set
Great for beginners, this softer bondage set will allow you to ease in to being your partner's perfect submissive.
Details are key! It features a scalloped lace bra and a strappy lace waist cincher to highlight your curves.
2. Black and White Contrast Bra and Garter Set
Crafted from luxurious black and white contrast mesh fabric, this lingerie set tantalizes the senses with its play of light and shadow. The bra features a peek-a-book design, teasingly revealing hints of skin while providing just the right amount of support and lift.
3. Collar & Leash Set
Add a spark of excitement to your play time with this adjustable collar and leash. Designed for extended wear.
4. Sexy Harness Mesh Teddy
Give them all your love in this ultra sexy teddy featuring a sheer mesh teddy with removable and adjustable harness strapping. Neck piece is also removable and adjustable.
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