Bondage Lingerie: Introduction & What to Wear

March 04, 2022

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Whether you’re a newbie to bondage lingerie or you're a total slave to the practice, this article will cover the basics of bondage lingerie and our favorite pieces to play in.

The idea of bondage can be intimidating to people who think they are either too conservative or inexperienced in the bedroom. But curiosity is healthy, and knowledge is power! 

We’re going to give you the low-down on what bondage is, how to try it, and where to find sexy bondage lingerie for when you’re feeling frisky.


What is bondage?

Let’s be honest, when you think of bondage, you might think of Fifty Shades of Grey depictions. But there’s so much more to it than that.

Bondage is a part of the BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism) subculture and the practice of consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic, aesthetic or somatosensory stimulation (such as pressure, pain, tickling, etc.).

 

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Two common labels you'll hear in BDSM play are "sub" and "dom," which are short for "submissive" and "dominant." Submissive roles are those in bondage restraints, whereas dominant roles do the disciplining. 

Bondage has been prevalent in art since the 17th century when women were tied up and depicted as damsels in distress.

Although Fifty Shades of Grey wasn’t an accurate depiction of the BDSM subculture, its mainstream appeal encouraged some women to explore BDSM fantasies for the first time. 


How do you introduce bondage into your bedroom?

Communication is key

Bondage in the bedroom involves either you or your partner letting go of control. Therefore, most people set up a safe word when trying out this new venture.

A safe word lets both parties know that, when the word is said, play will stop immediately. This will allow you and your partner to build trust and explore freely. 

 

Keep it simple

We’ll get to this in more detail later, but begin your bondage practice with the essentials.

Bringing lots of new toys and gadgets can be overwhelming and intimidating. Something as simple as a blindfold can be a great starting point.

  

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Don’t let misconceptions stop you

Despite what most people think, bondage can be very romantic. There are a lot of misconceptions about bondage—it doesn’t have to be all whips and chains.

Don’t put pressure on yourself, and just have fun with it.

 

Do your research

There is a lot of good information out there to help you get started.

Reading blogs like this one and articles will help you guide you through trying bondage.

 

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Editor's Picks: Bondage Lingerie, Accessories & Sets

Ready to get kinky? Here are some favorite bondage lingerie picks to start or continue your bondage adventures. 

1. Fishnet Teddy & Garter Belt Bondage Set

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Get creative in this unique fishnet bondage teddy featuring ring details and wrist restraints that clasp to the (removeable) garter belt. 

You'll be all strapped up and ready for playtime. 

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2. Lace Yourself Bondage Set

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Great for beginners, this softer bondage set will allow you to ease in to being your partner's perfect submissive.

Details are key! It features a scalloped lace bra and a strappy lace waist cincher to highlight your curves. 

 

 

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3. Erotic Leather Collar

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Get the perfect bondage lingerie piece for your erotic explorations. We love the Erotic Leather Collar because it brings bondage to a new level of naughty.

The attached wrist restraints and buckle details make for extra fun.

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4. French Maid Bondage Set

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The French Maid fantasy is a well-known one of submission and dominance—so why not add an element of bondage?

In addition to the open-crotch apron-style panty, this set includes the satin blindfold and wrist ties.

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5. Wet Look Bondage Crotchless Bodysuit Set

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Looking for a sleek take on sexy bondage style? This irresistible wet look teddy is open cup and open-crotch, leaving lots to be explored. 

This two-piece set comes with a matching fishnet eye mask to take the pleasure to another dimension. 

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6. Dominatrix Faux Leather Mini Dress 

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Call all curvy doms! This body-hugging faux leather dress features mesh sides and studded strap details for a sexy session full of discipline. 

Sold exclusively at Lingerie Diva, you won't find this piece anywhere else.

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7. Men's Gladiator One-Piece Thong

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Be a stud in this bad-to-the-bone one-piece thong with a contoured pouch and studded details.

With the built-in collar, you or your partner will be at mercy in the best way.

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8. Revealing Leather & Chain Vest Set 

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Everyone loves a lady in leather—add some chains and a collar to the mix, and you get this incredibly sexy bondage lingerie vest and thong set. 

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9. Desired Love Crotchless Bondage Teddy Set

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Can sub lingerie get any sexier?

This three-piece crotchless cage bodysuit set includes a matching blindfold  and wrist restraints, but the best feature is probably the built-in restraints using the bodysuit straps.

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